Relationships are as fragile as life itself. Little things make it blossom, but little things can also cause tension to build up.
Here are some bad habits you might want to kick if you want to have a fruitful, long lasting relationship with your partner.
It’s OK to take time to cool down, but giving them the silent treatment for an extended period of time doesn’t solve any problems. When it comes to relationships, communication is key and silent treatment does exactly the opposite. Ignore your partner too long, too often, and they might just give up trying to work things out.
If you’re the kind who tend to give up in keeping up with appearances when things get too comfortable, stop. After getting into a relationship, studies have shown that couples generally tend to put on a few pounds. You both may have vowed to love each other in sickness, health, and everything else, but that isn’t an excuse to be less active. Maintaining good health and an active lifestyle can only do more good than harm for your relationship.
No one likes being with someone who keeps tabs every time an argument comes up. Sure, your partner is not flawless, but it’s best to leave resolved issues alone, especially when you’ve both agreed on the conclusion. Stop revisiting past arguments and use it as a weapon against your partner any time a disagreement comes up.
Telling white lies may come with good intentions, but over time, your partner may start to lose trust in you. A relationship that isn’t based on trust is always headed in the wrong direction.
Spending too much time together
Yes, you read that right. Here, balance and moderation is key. While it’s not great to spend too much time apart, sticking to each other 24/7 can be detrimental to your relationship, as well as other relationships with your family, friends and so on. Spending too much time with your partner takes time away from others who care about you. Besides, taking a break (in the good way!) from each other helps you treasure the times you spend with your partner more!
Always being on your phone
It’s not just a bad habit, sometimes, this can seem downright rude especially when your partner is trying to tell you something important. It’s easy to get caught up in the virtual world – Facebook, Instagram, Twitter – and forget about the person who is seated across the table. Being physically present is not enough, and sometimes, you got to put your phone down to truly listen and connect with your better half.
Text: Felicia Tan, Woon Ching Yen / Her World / November 2016
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