Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you can’t scratch an itch. And bumping genitals with a friend can be better than doing the same with a stranger—at least it’s with someone you know, and maybe even trust.
The downside, of course, is that a FWB situation can get super messy, super quickly. Lines get blurred because it’s more than a friendship, but less than a relationship. And if we don’t take the time to draw up proper boundaries, we just might be setting ourselves up for disaster.
Want to be down to f**k without f**king up? Scroll the gallery on six ways to do it right.
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1. Choose the right friend
Just because you find him attractive doesn’t mean he’s the one you should be in bed with. He shouldn’t be someone you have a crush on or vice versa since that will just complicate things, and he’s also got to be emotionally mature enough to handle the potentially delicate arrangement.
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2. Keep jealousy at bay
It’s easy to ~feel things~ when someone you’re intimate with is close to someone else, so it’s important to remember that he’s not your boyfriend and is free to do whatever he wants. As you are. Also, FWB works best when there’s no pressure or obligation—just luuuv.
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3. Don't text him constantly
Unless the two of you have always had a texty friendship (you know, WhatsApping all day, every day), nothing should be different just because you two are now having sex. He shouldn’t have to listen to your complaints about work or watch the cat videos you find cute just because you’re now acquainted with his penis.
4. Keep the love in the bedroom
Getting lovey-dovey will just make it feel like a relationship, so refrain from cuddling, hand-holding or smooching after the deed is done as it could all just spell trouble. And if you’re wondering, don’t stay over—waking up next to somebody is a really intimate act and may make you feel more attached than you should be.
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5. Play safe
Safe sex always, whether with boyfriend, friend or stranger. And in this case, the last thing you’ll need in the way of your friendship is an infection… or a pregnancy.
6. Talk it out
It could be about the boundaries of this arrangement or what you like in bed. Either way, as with most things in life, it’s all about communication. After all, no one is a mind reader.