As much as we hate to admit it, for Singaporeans, our parents have a great influence on our careers. Some of us probably have forgone opportunities to pursue an unconventional career because our parents think it’s “not stable”, and the few who have gone on to pursue the career not only get judgmental remarks from their family, but also the people around them.
These CLEO Change Makers, however, have pushed through and made a name for themselves while pursuing what our parents would think are unconventional careers. Here’s how they convinced their parents.
“I decided to not tell them or ask for support. I told myself that if my parents found out on their own, that would mean that I have succeeded. They didn’t realise what I was doing till they saw me in the news and on TV.”
“I kept very busy with my projects and I think that [devotion] convinced them. They could see that there was no need to motivate me because I’m very self-motivated. I was painting in my room day and night, with the fumes and everything, but they could see that I loved every minute of it and that I was happy exploring. Our parents just want to see us grow.”
“Very simple — be more successful than they’ll ever imagine you to be. Show them the results.”
“Don’t just tell them that you’ll work hard – show them. My parents didn’t question my decision to be a barista much because they saw me working hard and they saw the value in that.”
“I think they could see a change in my character. In my previous job, I was a very timid person but this job, I have changed to become more confident and I know how to speak up for what’s right. I think that made them think, ‘Oh, she’s doing better.’ And I think when they saw my progress in the organisation, they knew that this is something I really wanted to do.”
“Find out why your parents don’t want you to do that and tackle the root of the problem. For me, it was money.”
“I was stubborn, so I just did what I wanted to do [even though they had their concerns]. But they eventually came to see my reasons and for that, I am grateful.”