How To Adult: Doctor, Entrepreneur, and Philanthropist Elaine Kim Shares Her Advice
So no one told you that life was going to be this way. When the going gets tough, one of our favourite things to do is to turn to women we look up to and ask, ‘what should I do? Do you have any advice?’ We got Dr Elaine Kim, who on top of being a palliative care doctor at St Luke’s Hospital, is also the co-founder of social enterprise CRIB, and co-working space and preschool Trehaus, to share some #adulting advice that she has for women in their 20s.
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Surround yourself with good people
“No man or woman is an island. Everything I have done in my life would never have been possible without the love and support of my husband, friends, family, co-workers, co-founders, church community, caregivers and other people who have lent a hand or given me encouragement… or have worked hand-in-hand with me to build a business.”
“Also, there’s a saying ‘You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with‘. Who you surround yourself with influences who you become.”
You can do anything you set your mind to
If you have a dream business or career, well, don’t just dream! Take your first step towards it.
“It can be a simple step – doing a little research, calling up someone to get their advice, but it all begins from the first step. From that first step, take a next, and a next, and one day you will look back and realise you have achieved something you never thought you could.”
Open your eyes to the lives of others. Travel if you can. Do good.
“Being able to travel has been such a blessing. It has widened my horizons and opened my mind to possibilities, but more importantly, allows me to see how much we take for granted in our own lives.”
“Back home, being able to go into the homes and lives of my patients in palliative care – many of whom are the poorest of our society – has taught me to have the right perspective on life, be aware of what truly matters, to not sweat the small stuff and count my blessings. It has made me more mindful of how I can help others. Give when you can, and help where you see help needed. Being able to make a difference in the lives of others, whether big or small, is the most meaningful thing we can do.”
There is never a "better time" to start a family.
“I know so many people who waited too long to have children and now regret it. I don’t know one person who wishes they had waited till later to have their child. If you want kids, don’t wait. Having my kids has been the most fulfilling thing I have done in my life. There’s always a way to make it work, and work-family balance can be a reality (see www.trehaus.co!).”