Ask your mum how motherhood is. She’ll probably tell you about how difficult it was to raise you and how you should be grateful to her (though you really should be). Often, we don’t know how tough being a mother is until we become mums ourselves. As my mother wisely says whenever my sisters and I do something to anger her, “Wait till you become a mother, then you’ll know how I feel.” In Malay, it sounds like this: “Nanti kau dah jadi mak baru kau tahu macam mana.”
Being a mother entails a lot of things—you’re not only responsible for a human being, but you also have to make sacrifices, whether it’s not having me-time or not being able to go on dates with your husband. But as mothers would tell you, it’s all worth it once you see your child.
Motherhood is another phase in one’s life, so it’s not surprising if you find your lifestyle habits changing after becoming a mum. We speak to eight millennial mothers to find out how life has changed since they had kids. Scroll through the gallery to read.
“I’ve stopped travelling and the only TV I watch is Cbeebees.” – Victoria
“I discovered my newfound level of patience—a sleep-deprived me can still smile and play with this active little one who unintentionally hits and bites (he’s teething) me and often invades my sleeping zone.” – Peiyu
“I developed muscles I never knew I had—all from carrying my baby.” – Fifi
“After becoming a mother, me-time has become a rare luxury. The upside? I’ve become very efficient and decisive in everything I do because I now have to maximise the limited time I have. I also find that my tolerance for s*** (literally and figuratively) has grown by leaps and bounds. I think I’ve become a happier person, because I seldom sweat the small stuff in life.” – Kayce
“I never knew I was so flexible. I can contort my body into a tiny space on the bed because my son sleeps like a starfish sometimes.” – Nora
“When you’re a mother, you’ll find that you’re fine with spending $300 on your baby, but will think spending $50 on new clothes for yourself is too expensive.” – Zahra
“[My husband and I] haven’t had a date night since the twins were born. … My husband does help out whenever he can, so from time to time, I get to take a breather. Having dinner alone or reading a book is a luxury.” – Karin
“I go on dates with my husband from time to time, though not as often as I would like. But I know that we’ll have more time to ourselves when the girls are older and don’t need us around as much, and I look forward to that.” – Jolene
Happy Mother’s Day to all mums!
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