Picture ghosting and what comes to mind is one person ignoring another’s text. But ghosting was a thing even before the invention of phones.
“Ghosting has been carried out by many people over centuries to end relationships quietly. Technology just made this exit strategy much more obvious,” says Cherlyn Chong, a breakup recovery and dating coach.
“You can now connect with a stranger easily. And if you guys don’t share mutual friends, they can just vanish without backlash.”
She points out that the people who are the most likely to resort to ghosting are those who tend to avoid emotional closeness in relationships.
“They don’t want to handle the uncomfortable aspects of being honest with you and don’t want to deal with your emotional reaction. They’d rather hurt you silently than make themselves uncomfortable.”
Being ghosted sucks but you shouldn’t let get to you—their actions (or the lackthere of) say more about them than you. Cherlyn shares five tips on how you can deal with it in the best way possible.
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