“I spend most of my time working, so I don’t have many opportunities to meet new people. For me, Tinder is about expanding my social circle – mostly to find someone I can have a relationship with. It’s not just about sex, although I do have friends who use it to hook up with girls.
Truthfully, I haven’t had many meaningful conversations on Tinder, so I don’t use it that much anymore. I do, however, think that dating apps can be used to find a potential partner. In the fast-paced world we live in, a lot of us are constantly working, and apps are one of the most direct ways of meeting someone new. Right now, I prefer Coffee Meets Bagel, as the girls I chat with on the app seem more sincere in looking for someone to be in a relationship with. Despite the fact that it’s not working out for me so far, I will stay optimistic!” – Min Quan, 29.
“When it comes to Tinder, I know guys who are on it purely to look for hook-ups, [but there are those who] are looking for relationships. Among my own guy friends, we’ll be open about what we’re looking for on Tinder, but if girls were to ask, usually we would give a half-truth and say we’re just on it to make friends. Friends… with benefits, that is.
I daresay that the majority, though, are game for either and will go with the flow either way. If they meet someone who’s DTF (google it!), a hook-up will suffice. But if there’s a mutual connection, they might explore a relationship together. I know quite a few compatible couples who met on Tinder.
You should have at least one solo photo on your Tinder profile. Guys, being visual creatures, don’t want to have to second guess which one you are in the group photo, and pray for the best when it’s time to meet up. Personally, I’m not too keen on girls with profiles that have absolutely no description/information, as it either shows a complete lack of effort or an ‘I’m-too-cool to care’ attitude which personally is a turn-off. Looks can only get you so far.” – Marc Lim, 28.
“Being inauthentic (AKA heavily photoshopped pictures on your profile) is an instant no-no. It’s like false advertising, right? I think people prefer to get what they see, and see what they get. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, so you never know who might fancy your style and look. The idea is to be authentic. So if you choose to present your natural look, the chances of you meeting someone who genuinely likes you is higher. That acts as a very good natural filter, in my opinion.
After conversation on the app has been initiated, it’s poor form to rant about your life or job. A level of intimacy is required to withstand the weight of your negativity – it’s not appropriate for someone you’ve just met! And if he stops messaging you after you guys take the conversation off Tinder, he has probably moved on. Or perhaps the profile picture on WhatsApp doesn’t match the Tinder profile! But if that happens, simply move on.” – Clinton Zheng, 27.