Have you ever just felt unhappy even when everything around you seems to be going well? Often, people who feel like this are actually the victim of gaslighting without even knowing it.
Basically, gaslighting is “the systematic attempt by one person to erode another person’s reality.” It can happen in any type of relationship – it can be your colleague, your friend, or even a family member. The important thing is that you trust this person’s opinions… and that’s why they hurt so much.
Thankfully it’s not impossible to get out of such a situation. It just involves understanding yourself better.
“It’s about having a strong sense of what you are OK with, and what you aren’t. The only way to have a clear sense or internal guide about situations is to do a review, even before you’re in that situation. Ask yourself, what are my boundaries in a relationship? Am I OK with this? What am I not OK with?” says Psychologist Anoushka Beh of Abeh Psych.
Also useful is to take note of these 10 indicators. While some of these might seem minor, remember it’s all about escalation and how the situation makes you feel.