Nervous about that upcoming first date and don’t quite know how to be? Then you ought to check out these helpful tips from our CLEO Bachelors—they are after all the sweetest and realest guys (no, I’m not biased).
“Be fully present instead of being distracted by your phone and/or social media. Listen to what the other person has to say, and really listen to show that you care.”
“Try not to expect too much and be open-minded—I think it’s best to not put pressure on anything. If something materialises, it’s a bonus. It’ll also help to smell nice since the first thing people remember you by is your scent. The main thing, though, is to be yourself. You want someone to appreciate you for who you are, not who they want you to be.”
“It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.”
“Always offer to pay for your share—it says a lot about your character. Although I always pay for my dates, I like it when a girl offers to pay as it shows that she’s grounded and respectful.”
“Every person you go on a date with is interesting in their own way. Always maintain eye contact and listen to what they have to say, especially since it’s the small things that count. Remembering things he told you just might come in handy one day.”
“Pretending to be interested on a first date is so important. After all, you have to learn how to like someone, and pretending to is the first step.”
“Don’t overthink. Overthinking ruins the vibe and makes things awkward. There must have been a mutual agreement between you and him for the date to have materialise, so make the best out of the situation and enjoy the time together. You may never get it again.”
“Be open and upfront about who you are, what you want and why those things are important to you. There’s also no point to pulling off a grand gesture on the first date if it’s not something that can be sustained over time.”
“Keep an open mind. It’s OK to get to know someone slowly, so try not to make assumptions about the other person right off the bat. Everyone has their own stories to tell and we all take time to understand one another.”
“Never judge a book by its cover. Also, try to do a couple of activities together so you can see their different sides in the different situations.”
“Talk about your interests—whether it’s your travels, hobbies or favourite TV shows. There’s no way to get to know each other. Also, be humble and be your true self. Don’t get carried away trying to impress him too much.”
“Be genuine, not desperate.”
“Just be yourself. Chances are, he’s freaking out too.”
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