I don’t know about you, but I hate it when people spoil a TV show or movie I’m looking forward to. Once you know what’s going to happen, the experience just isn’t as fun.

The same goes with dating. No thanks to the Internet, we can now “spoil” ourselves by checking out our future date’s social media profile. It takes away the joy of slowly getting to know someone via actual conversation, and it sucks. Sure, you could just NOT look them up online, but it sure is a lot harder than avoiding Game of Thrones spoilers.

The anxiety that comes with waiting for the person you’re dating to text you back has been around for years. But it’s gotten much worse, since most chat apps now let you know when someone has read your message. He read it an hour ago, so why hasn’t he replied? Is he avoiding you? Is he seeing someone? Did you do something wrong? Turns out he was at a meeting you almost had a heart attack for nothing. Damn you, blue ticks!

So you’ve got a match on Tinder and it turns out he’s great. Oh, but you’ve got another match on Coffee Meets Bagel, and what do you know, he loves Drake too. Hey look, somebody just checked you out on OkCupid – and he seems cuter than the rest…

The problem with dating apps is they’re addictive. I mean, why stop when a better guy could just be a swipe away? And so we’re locked in this extended phase of looking but not settling, never fully investing ourselves in any one person lest a better one pops up on [insert dating app here]. (For a detailed account on this phenomenon, check out this story.)