Following on from the rare gem—the ‘too good to be true’ man is so hard to spot, because you always think he’s a rare gem. He comes off as genuine, and you have no need to question him. However, slowly, some weird things will start to pop up, cracks will begin to show and you’ll learn he isn’t quite as he seems.

Hiding a secret family? Not yet separated from his wife? Secretly broke but pretending to be stable? A gambler? Alcoholic? Depressed? Or just someone who loves lying, just for the thrill of it? Whatever it is, there is something way off about this man and he’ll never be a good life partner option.

Unfortunately, the only way to find this out is the hard way. You can’t assume every man is too good to be true, in case you just had a rare gem and ruined it with your cynicism. Power through with conversation and initial dates, but look out for warning signs and if your gut instinct tells you something isn’t right, listen to it.