Looking For New Ways To Orgasm? Find Your A-Spot

Like never before.

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We may live in a time of female empowerment, but that doesn’t mean we know what to do with all that power. Because while it is no longer baffling that women can also embrace sexual pleasure (God forbid female hysteria ever becomes a thing again), it doesn’t necessarily mean we know how. 

So when Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist at Eros Coaching, invited me to her women-only workshop, Embracing Your Pleasure, I was more than happy to find out how I can enhance mine.

Martha was warm, funny and took a matter-of-fact approach to sex and the female body, so there was never an awkward moment. She talked about our anatomy and shared tips on how we better can attain an orgasm, which were helpful, but what really got me sitting up was when she brought up the existence of the A-spot.

As it turns out, aside from the G-spot, there’s also something called the A-spot. While it’s clearly more elusive since it’s lesser-known, it’s not impossible to find.

“The anterior fornix erogenous zone [otherwise known as the A-spot] is reportedly located at or near the deepest point of the anterior wall of the vagina, above the cervix, where the anterior wall of the vagina starts to curve upward,” explained Martha.

Can’t picture it? A quick Google search will answer many questions, and as with the other parts of your body, it can be stimulated with a finger or a sex toy. But here’s the thing: the A-spot may or may not unlock the best orgasm of your life.

“I often say an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm. We tend to rate and rank our orgasms but this can create comparison, anxiety, and stress,” she said. “The difference in pleasure and sensation [between the G-spot and the A-spot] can differ considerably for different people, so it’s much better to just explore your own body and see [what you like].”

But that doesn’t mean it won’t leave your mind blown—trawl the Internet and you’ll stumble upon accounts from women who claim that stimulating their A-spot gave them life-changing orgasms. So it might be well worth a go even if it may not feel great the first time.

“Don’t diss the A-spot because of discomfort or pain, because the sensation can change considerably with more practice and arousal,” added Martha.

So there’s your next playground—the A-spot. And if you want to boost your own sexual pleasure, it’s worth considering one of Martha’s several workshops. After all, allowing ourselves to do just that is empowerment, right?

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