Reboot Your Relationship In 3 Easy Steps

You’ve hit a slump with bae and your first instinct is to go into fight or flight mode. But don’t give up just yet – try doing these three things first. 

  1. Show daily appreciation 
    When was the last time you thanked your partner? Or reminded him of why you fell in love with him? It doesn’t have to be super mushy stuff, but it’s nice to know that someone appreciates you. Remember to be generous with your words, and shower him with compliments frequently. Willy Ho, founder and lead counsellor at The Counselling Paradigm, says: “You don’t need to wait for big occasions like birthdays or anniversaries. Daily appreciations can mean a lot to either party.” 
     
  2. Make time for each other 
    Just like how you set aside time for exercise, you have to make sure you work in enough “boyfriend time” into your schedule. It doesn’t have to be a fancy date – it can be as simple as giving your beau half an hour of undivided attention. Use this time to talk about your day, or do something that the both of you enjoy, like taking a short walk around the block. “Think about what you need to feel more connected to your partner,” advises Jessica Lamb, founder of Relationship Matters
     
  3. Try out new things 

    When you’ve been together for a while, things might start to get repetitive because you’d have developed a routine. “After years of dating, both partners will usually know each other quite well,” explains Willy. “Couples who want to avoid the slump need to look for new ways to bond, such as forming a new hobby.”

    In other words, find new things to do together to create new experiences. Switch things up by going for a holiday, trying a new sex position, signing up for a marathon or learning how to make soap – whatever floats your boat. If it looks fun, give it a try.

    But ultimately, you need two hands to clap when it comes to rebooting your relationship. And the key to making it last? “Both parties need to actively work on the relationship, rather than just going through the motions,” says Willy. 

 

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Text: Sophie Hong

Text: Sophie Hong

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